A beautiful wedding reading to mark your new chapter
We’ve previously featured a wedding reading by Robert Fulghum, but this one may be the most popular piece of his work among newlywed couples. Union, written by Robert Fulghum, a Unitarian Universalist minister, is about pausing your ceremony to ground yourself, to deliberate over your vows, and to acknowledge the beginning of your next chapter. While the ending was initially written as pre-same sex marriage, it could easily be changed if necessary.
Robert Fulghum’s Union
From the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment, you have known each other. You made the decision to marry at some point. Indeed, from that moment of yes to this moment of yes, you have been making informal promises and agreements. All those conversations held in the car, over a meal, or on long walks – all those sentences that began with “When we’re married” and ended with “I will, you will, and we will” – those late-night discussions that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” – and all those unspoken promises. All of these commonplace occurrences, and more, comprise the true process of a wedding.
The symbolic vows you are about to take are a way for you to communicate to one another, “You know all those things we’ve promised and hoped and dreamed—well, I meant every word.”
Take a moment to look at one another and reflect on this moment in time. You have been many things to one another prior to this moment – acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, and even teacher, as you have gained much knowledge from one another over the last few years. Now you will say a few words that will catapult you across a life’s threshold, and nothing will ever be the same between you. For following these vows, you will declare to the world that this is my husband and this is my wife.